Agree or Disagree: Men prefer to be respected rather than loved.

A while ago, we did discuss a book called Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. The book makes the theory that women seek to be loved, and men seek to be respected. I generally disagreed with the premise that the book gave. This week something interesting happened. I was texting with a friend how excited I was that this month we broke 1,000 views on my blog. At this typing we passed 1,200 views.  Just on a side note, thank you for coming and checking out the blog. Im truly honoured.

Anyway, in the midst of our text conversation, I almost texted out these words.

I just want to be respected.

I thought this was in part because for many years, I felt like I wasn't respected. I've worked really hard to change that. I have learned I can't change perceptions or please people, but focus on the things that you need to change. In time the people that choose to notice, will.

But another thing happened.  I noticed that I said I just want to be respected, I didn't say I want to be loved. (Although that's true too).  I wondered if this was a man thing and would prefer respect over love?

What do you think?